Why do I love him?
It seems he’s just starting the same patterns as my exboyfriend, telling me I hate his family, telling me I don’t support him. I’ve also begun making excuses for him.
At least he hasn’t smacked me in the face like the last one….
Let’s talk about subject one, his family. I have expressed dislike toward his mother over the years, this is true. But, she also stole over $20,000 dollars from him, tried to exploit him by shoving him into commercial casting calls his whole life, talks about me behind my back, and treats him like shit. She complains I never visit (which is a lie), when I do visit, she ignores me totally and only talks to Lance. She gives him a ton of orders in front of me like the only reason she wanted me there was to show me who is really his “boss.”
I also can’t stand an aunt of his, who, after living in America for most of her life and KNOWS English very well, refuses to speak it. When I met her she told me that I needed to better my spanish so I could speak to her. She has some sick obsession about my boyfriend (they’re not blood related) always hugging and slobbering all over him, getting him drunk, and constantly telling me that I can only stay at her vaca home in Mexico if I speak spanish to her.
Look, I would love to be more fluent in spanish (I must not be that bad considering I understood every word she said to me and everyone else in spanish, my dad’s whole side of the family is from mexico and my grandmother spoke spanish to me when I was little, she just saw a small blonde girl and assumed). Even if I did speak really great spanish, I would never speak to her in it. It’s one thing if you don’t know English, but it’s another if you do know English and still refuse to speak it, make other people translate for you, and tell other people THEY need to learn THEIR native tongue, even though neither of you live in their native country.
The other thing, not being supportive of him. I am not one of those girlfriends that goes on and on to their boyfriends about how they’re so lucky to have me and blah blah blah. I’m just not. But when he told me I wasn’t supportive of him I snapped. I reminded him that for the next 8-10 years I would be living very poorly while living only on my salary and that of his part time job while he struggled his way through medical school. That I see our difficult journey ahead and am willing to stick it out because I love him and I would never leave him just because things are tough. I also reminded him that if I weren’t supportive, and if he truly thought that way, it wouldn’t be too hard for me in L.A. to pick up someone else. Someone that wouldn’t nag at me like a woman constantly.
I told him if he wants to know about having no support from their significant other, try being constantly reminded that they prefer long blonde hair (when mine is clearly short and reddish). That they don’t support my want to get breast implants, not because he doesn’t like big boobs, but because he’s afraid they’ll come out too trashy looking. Also that I’ve been so excited about going out for acting parts and now magically he’s decided he’s going to be a movie star too, and whenever I bring it up, he can’t just let me fantasize out loud about becoming a great actress, he has to talk about how he’s goign to be “rich and famous.”
Ugh!!!!!!! Why do I love him?
-Shelby
